How to get past your own defenses and learn to build a real relationship.
Source: www.psychologytoday.com
Love can be taught since it is a set of skills: "With love being so closely connected to meaning and fulfillment, it’s valuable for each of us to define love as an action or series of actions we can take to bring us closer to the people we value.
"In a romantic context, some essential characteristics that fit the description of a loving relationship include:
Expressions of affection, both physical and emotional.
A wish to offer pleasure and satisfaction to another.
Tenderness, compassion, and sensitivity to the needs of the other.
A desire for shared activities and pursuits.
An appropriate level of sharing of possessions.
An ongoing, honest exchange of personal feelings.
The process of offering concern, comfort, and outward assistance for the loved one’s aspirations."
Which of these skills do employees expect leadership to demonstrate? Which are promoted as a "glue" between co-workers?
Dropping the "physical" from these descriptions and skills, what insights and connections do we find? What is the meaning of transparency in this context?
Here’s another question: are employees asking for too much, expecting too much, from their work relationships and work environments? Are we looking for love in all the wrong places?